9 Reasons why you should NOT cheat on your significant other.

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1. LOVE

- I believe the word love is open to anyone’s interpretation. When you do love someone, you love the best, and the worst in him or her. The faults in a person are not reasons to cheat on them.

- “I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” – Marilyn Monroe

2. TRUST

- Trust is the main foundation upon which a relationship stands. Without trust, there isn’t a lot going for a relationship, and it can tend to become very one-sided. Trusting someone also requires that person to be trust-worthy. Cheating in previous relationships essentially makes you untrustable to future partners.

- “Trust is important, but it is also dangerous. It is important because it allows us to form relationships with others and to depend on others—for love, for advice, for help with our plumbing, or what have you—especially when we know that no outside force compels them to give us such things. But trust also involves the risk that people we trust will not pull through for us; for, if there were some guarantee that they would pull through, then we would have no need to trust them. Thus, trust is also dangerous. What we risk while trusting is the loss of the things that we entrust to others, including our self-respect, perhaps, which can be shattered by the betrayal of our trust.“ – Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy

3. INTIMACY

- Exclusivity is an inherent part of intimacy. The feeling of intimacy in a relationship comes when your significant other shares a part of them that they share with no one else.

- “Compounding the wide-scale deprivation of intimacy we actually experience, our cultural talent for commercialization has separated out sex from intimacy. In fact, intimacy involves both emotional and physical closeness and openness. But we wind up confusing the two and end up feeling betrayed or used when, as often happens, we fail to satisfy our need for closeness in sex.” – Lori H. Gordon, PsychologyToday.com

4. SECURITY

- You know your significant other is there for you. He or she is inviting, welcoming, accepting but most of all dependable. The peace of mind that when you turn around, they will still be there, ready to continue the journey with you.

- “You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” – Bob Marley

5. RESPECT

- Respect for your significant other goes hand-in-hand with trust. And you respect your significant other because they respect themselves. But more importantly, can you ask someone to respect you if you don’t respect him or her? Respect is a two way street. Mutuality.

“I’m sick of just liking people. I wish to God I could meet somebody I could respect.” – J.D. Salinger

6. FAMILY

-   The worst time for infidelity is in the presence of children. The innocent mind of a child feels the full impact of betrayal. Children Learn by example.

7. EMOTIONAL INVESTMENT

- Emotional investment is part of what a relationship is. The moment you betray your significant other, you start from 0. Like a game of Jenga, as you pull the blocks out from the foundation of a relationship, it eventually crumbles. All the elements that the relationship was built upon will no longer matter once the foundation of it no longer remains.

8. MATURITY

- We are all a product of our past and we strive to improve ourselves. Sometimes we have someone to mature with. Someone who pushes us to be better than we are. Time and experience defines maturity.
Cheating on your significant other is cowardice, selfish, and outright immature. Like choosing the easy way out

9. BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT A SELF PITYING, EGOCENTRIC, NARCISSISTIC, HYPOCRITE.

Moral of the story?
For god sake breakup with your significant other before acting like a grade A dick head.

- In honor of my friends and loved ones.

I write this article in response to ” Why you should cheat on your significant other
http://www.mtlblog.com/2013/11/why-you-should-cheat-on-your-significant-other/

Author: Peter Ryaux-Larsen